Setting the bar for self-respect
Around this age, the child’s horizons rapidly widen. Their social circle expands with the addition of many new relationships. The relationship between the child and the caregiver builds the foundation for all the future relationships of the child. One has to understand
Is my child a mini adult?
Now our child no longer looks like a baby. They may speak like an adult or their body language may begin to resemble the adults. They may also be able to do many things and say many things and think
Permission to speak about our child
Have you ever been in a situation when two people were speaking something negative about you and you happened to be within earshot? If not, just for now let’s imagine. Imagine that the person sharing the negative information or opinion is
This matters more than how much you love your child
Do you love your child? Needless to answer. Does your child know how much you love them? To paraphrase Dr Gabor Mate, it doesn’t matter how much love you send to your child, what matters is how much of that love does the
The child will be a child
“You make such a mess.” “Why don’t you sit quietly?” “Stop shouting.” “Stop jumping.” “You don’t listen to me at all.” “You don’t have any manners!” “Why don’t you share toys?” “You don’t have any patience.” Have you said or thought any of these for your child? A lot
Avoiding ‘no’ as much as possible
You are playing with your child and you watch your child move away from you and towards something. You realise it’s a glass object which the child never gets to play with and suddenly you realise that the object is
Dealing with stubbornness part 2
When it comes to dealing with stubbornness, we have already looked at ‘leading with a yes’ and ‘not labelling’ as two important ways. Let’s look at two more. What happens as a result of the crying in the example above is important.
Dealing with stubbornness part 1
“My child is becoming more and more stubborn by the day” This is the experience of many parents around this time. Let’s look at a fourfold plan to deal with stubbornness. We are going to use an example of a child who wants
Throwing a tantrum: our language problem
When we speak about our child’s tantrums, we usually use the words ‘throw’. “Why are you throwing a tantrum?” “No throwing tantrums!” “Why are you doing this?” “Stop!” We also talk about “creating a fuss” or “creating a scene/drama”. This is not only with respect to
Emotional preparations for the next steps
Providing for a baby and allowing the baby to develop in an environment which is trauma free and sensitive to the baby’s needs (not only physical but also psychological needs) is a daunting task. On this journey, all aspects of